The KEY REASON Why Your Pain Won’t Heal!

Posted by on Sep 13, 2016 in Pain-Free | Comments Off on The KEY REASON Why Your Pain Won’t Heal!

woman-with-keyYou are possibly reading this because you or someone you love may be experiencing pain. Maybe you want to find a way to help them. It is possible that they are already trying several different things to help ease the pain but nothing is really shifting.

So why isn’t the pain healing?
After a decade now being pain free from my own chronic pain which   had me confined to bed-rest forever, and also after working with thousands of others suffering from pain, here is what I know for sureUNPROCESSED EMOTIONS (past, present, even future) are the KEY missing piece to finding the lasting relief you are looking for!

Many of my clients, before reaching out to me, have already undergone various other treatments like medication, physiotherapy, ultrasound therapy, doing yoga classes, taking herbs, acupuncture etc. and yet they find the pain does not completely go away, or returns after a while in new strong ways!

So what have EMOTIONS got to do with PAIN?  

Stress and challenges are part of every day living.  On a daily basis we go through all kinds of feelings and emotions!  Whether it is interactions with members of the family, driving kids to school, getting to work, interacting with colleagues, discussions in meetings, not making it to our child’s special school event, replying to an angry client or customer etc. We navigate through all sorts of emotional landscapes in our daily journey. And just like the daily physical dirt and daily sweat, we pick up a fair share of what I call ‘DAILY EMOTIONAL DIRT’ too!

Interestingly we have been taught very early in our life of the importance of DAILY PHYSICAL HYGEINE –of daily washing our hands, taking a shower, brushing our teeth. But no one has ever taught us to wash away/ clear out our DAILY EMOTIONAL DIRT!

However, every painful upsetting experience (from toady, from our past, our childhood) leaves behind a painful residue that gets STORED within us, in our body, in our cells.  Over time, these painful feelings bottled up, overload our system, deplete our immunity and cause PAIN and DIS-EASE!

So how can we experience lasting relief from Pain?

There are 2 aspects to pain.

  1. The emotional pain we feel day to day  (or ‘Daily Emotional Dirt’)
  2. The pain we have been unconsciously holding on to from our past, even since our childhood days (I call it Old Emotional Cobwebs)


1. Having a Daily Mental/Emotional Hygiene routine would be ideal!

Just like you consciously take time out to brush teeth, take a shower, you would consciously create time every day to TUNE IN and notice incidents that day that upset you that day, acknowledge how you feel, feel those feelings and then once you are ready to…let them go!

Some people skeptically ask, “why do you have to bring up the upsetting feelings! Isn’t it best to leave them behind and focus on the positive?”

Firstly ignoring those upsetting feelings is like going to bed with dirty clothes on, or like shoving dirt under the carpet and trying to show that all is well! And if you do ignore it, your body over time will let you know via some PAIN or DISEASE that you need to pay attention within!

As Louise Hays, author of You Can Heal Your Life, that has sold over 50million copies worldwide says ” you can’t clear the dirt you cant see! You need to first SEE IT, to CLEAR IT!”

2. The other important piece is doing an EMOTIONAL SPRING CLEANING of your life!

This would mean taking time to tune in to past upsetting /emotional conflicts that you are still holding on to subconsciously! Just as you take time out to every now and then spring clean your home!

A common response to this is…’oh but it was so long ago, it doesn’t even bother me anymore! I have let it go!’

Well, if that were indeed true then you would not be in any physical or emotional pain today!  When I work with clients I often hear, “I cant believe I still feel so upset about this, I thought I had let it go a long time back!

So if you are open to having an honest look about why your pain wont heal, and truly committed to helping yourself and experience lasting relief, DO NOT IGNORE YOUR EMOTIONAL PAIN!  Acknowledge it, accept it, feel it, and let it go!

It is THE missing piece to your true healing!