Are you someone who has been tolerating pain for a while (may be for a long long time?)
Do these statements resonate with you?
- I have been living with this pain for many years now!
- I feel like I have 2 lives, one that I “put on” for everyone and one that’s eating me up inside.
- There are days I feel I can get through this fine, then one day suddenly all hell breaks loose!
- I can see this is a pattern now.
- I feel low most days and am losing interest in everything in my life.
- I feel dis-connect in my relationships and with my life.
So often I hear people in pain resigning to the idea that they just have to live with their pain. It could be a physical pain, a relationship pain or even ‘work pain’.
A decade ago, I was “tolerating” immense physical pain due to an illness I had because I had tried different things but nothing had worked. I thought I was stuck with it. But more than the physical pain, I was tolerating a job that I felt totally disconnected with. It felt as if I was suffocating there and couldn’t breathe. I was also tolerating a lot of pain in my relationships, but I kept moving forward day after day, week after week, month after month. I told myself, be grateful for all that you DO have. Stop focusing on what’s not working. You can’t have everything you want!
So, did “tolerating” the pain help?
Is tolerating pain a solution?
NO!!! NOT AT ALL!
Pain is just a message letting you know that something is off balance, something is off track, something needs your attention! Your pain is a “warning” signal!
Tolerating pain, is like dismissing or ignoring that message/warning and moving forward anyway. Tolerating Pain only gets worse day by day!
WHAT YOU TOLERATE ONLY MULTIPLES OVER TIME!
We can only tolerate something up to a point until it gets worse! How much can out heart, mind and body take after all? It all keeps adding up, until our system is overloaded and it all explodes!
Today my life is full of joy and peace and fun and loads of magical experiences. What changed? I started offloading and releasing all the “physical and emotional pain” I was (consciously and subconsciously) holding on to, instead of “tolerating” it!
So I want to ask you:
WHAT PAIN ARE YOU TOLERATING IN YOUR LIFE?
Relationship pain? Physical pain? Work Pain? Pain not being able to take the action you know you need to take? Pain knowing that as you suffer, others around you are also suffering because of your pain!
Maybe you you don’t know how to move forward letting go of your pain. Or may be you have fears of taking action to get out of pain because you do not know what’s on the other side! You fear what “they” will think, or say? Or you fear your actions may hurt “others” etc.
NOTE: PAIN IS JUST A MESSAGE. Ignoring the message will only make it get louder and louder over time! What you hold on to (consciously or subconsciously) you attract MORE of!
What can you do to break free from your pain?
Here are some basic tips:
List the Pros and Cons – get clarity on how tolerating your pain has impact you, your life, your loved ones. Has it been mostly beneficial? Mostly detrimental, getting worse?
Ask for help – if you don’t know what to do, seek help – from friends, people you trust. If you are like me, invest in getting expert guidance to move you faster towards the goals you want. We all have our ‘blind spots’. Sometimes we need an expert in that area to show us what we can’t see, because we are too close to the problem!
DELETE the Dis-empowering Voices in your head – those critical voices in your head that are fueling your fears of what might happen, and warning you about all the things that could go wrong if you took action, or making you feel guilt ad shame, is a Dis-empoweing Voice. You need to DELETE it from your system. Listen to the Voice of Inner Wisdom. What is it saying? Does it want you to live in pain? What does it have to say? Listen to that voice that always loves you and wants to support you!
You did not come into this life to “tolerate pain”! You are meant to live a life of your dreams. Each day you get to choose. Each day is a fresh new chance, a brand new opportunity!
So what will you choose? Is it YOUR TIME NOW? to stop tolerating and start creating a brand new life…a life you truly desire? You get to choose. And your time begins NOW!
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